Her foot was in that temporary boot they apply when someone has broken their leg. And because I knew her, I said, “Oh my! You’re the one who is always working out and staying in such great shape. What the heck happened?”
She was in tears as she told the story.
I said, “Do you ever wonder why the Universe can’t deliver messages in a more gentle fashion? Maybe you’re supposed to slow down?”
She wiped a tear and shook her head. She’s not the type to slow down. I probably shouldn’t have mentioned that.
And as I sat in the curtained room waiting for the results of the EKG, the blood work, the urine sample and the foot-long swab that actually fit up my nose, I wondered if the words I’d directed at her were really meant for me.
How many times have I written about stress? How many signs have I received that clearly tell me to slow the hell down?
I guess I’m not the type to slow down either.
And so after being told that my heart was fine, I stood in the waiting room, watching for Will. I’d insisted he drop me off, so he could get to school and focus. But then he insisted on picking me up. So much for his focus. As I watched for his truck, it was my turn to cry.
The tears were a mix of relief, embarrassment, frustration, and defeat.
Will dropped me at home and went back to school. Jen offered to cook me dinner, but I let her clean up instead. (I can only admit to so much defeat in one day.) We watched mindless television and waited for Will to get home. I got sick of them asking me how I felt, but hugged them because they asked.
I slept the night through.
This morning I read a post about secrets, and how unhealthy it is to keep secrets. I didn’t search out this post, it appeared on my laptop the way some gentler messages from the Universe do appear.
Soon after, my brother called to check in. He listened. He asked the right questions. He re-framed what I told him. He put a new spin on possible solutions. He made my secret seem less foreboding. (I realized that my big secret is feeling like I’m a failure.) He made different choices sound less like defeat, and more like a new route to success. His suggestions lightened my load.
Then I did the stretching and the poses and listened to the tapes. My back feels better. Of course it helps a lot that I’m not worried about the classic signs of heart disease in women.
But I see the pattern. It’s what I’ve said so many times. When I allow myself ease – the ability to slow things down, I feel better. Duh!!
But admitting I can’t do it all is like some f’d up version of defeat or failure. ‘Ease’ was not part of Wonder Woman’s vocabulary. Imagine how much better she’d have felt if she had eased up on that belt a little.
Today’s lesson: Do as I say, not as I do. Oh, and get the stress test.